Terkeurst’s book feels tailored to processing emotions and developing/maintaining close relationships (or letting them go). When discussing people who won't respect boundaries, she stated, "The problem isn't the boundary, it's that the person won't respect the boundary. I am often hesitant to recommend Christian books on boundaries and relationships due to misapplied and out of context scripture.

The wisdom in this book came from a time in Lysa’s life where she too was experiencing an unbelievable loss and heart crushing experience. Reading through this lens, I saw how Terkeurst uses the pain from her experience to help people develop more meaningful relationships.Partway through reading the book, I learned that the author was writing from the experience of her painful divorce. While I understand that there might be times that personal boundaries need to be set and others might not understand why, I don't understand why the voices of (hopefully) wise and loving counsel wouldn't at least be considered. I thank God for leading me to Good Boundaries and Goodbyes at this exact time in my life and felt Him speaking to me through Lysa's writing.

and said that when someone violates her boundaries, she can act "in opposite ways of the woman I really am. This is by far, hands-down the absolute, most helpful, practical, and realistic book about healthy boundaries!Terkeurst does not present any false information; however, her interpretation of the Christian scriptures is sometimes questionable. And it’s about communicating appropriate boundaries and parameters so that love can stay safe and sustainable. Through boundaries, a person invites others to choose between loving them by respecting the boundaries or harming them further; those who continue hurting the relationship effectively choose ending it. It has a clear concise message without over simplifying what can be a very complex issue of setting healthy boundaries. Sometimes, the book feels as though it was written in haste; however, I also got the sense that a great deal of thought and consideration is behind these pages.

And I didn’t even know boundaries could exist until I was in counseling a few years ago because I had become so deeply angry to the point of resentful.Sounds good at face value, but something about it bothered me and I only today figured out why—the emphasis on the good in us. Nevertheless, a glance at the chapter titles instantly shows the reader what they can expect to learn from this book. Probably the best book on boundaries and how to both accurately verbalize and live into them I have read. This was really helpful not only from Lysa’s perspective and story, but the end of each chapter also had a note from her therapist, Jim Cress. She has scripture to back up everything and as she says in her podcast doesn’t “tell you what to think, but gives you a lot to think about”.

by Lysa TerKeurst | Oct 10, 2022 | Blog, Boundaries, Good Boundaries and GoodbyesI love processing life together, being honest about our struggles together and celebrating our victories together.I’ve seen so much progress in my own relationships through all I’ve learned about good, healthy boundaries, and I want the same for you.