See how he calmly smiles and shakes his head as the harpies (his words, not mine) thrust themselves upon him! I’m not a psychiatrist but even I KNOW you need to validate people’s feelings, not tell them they’re wrong, ESPECIALLY when you don’t know what they’re going through. Understanding and fighting the negative feelings could lead to a much better and healthier situation than quick judgements and eventually loathing everything/everyone altogether.

It relates symptoms, experiences, resolutions, coping mechanics, and multiple perspectives of differing scenarios. He mentions that bpd is commonly found in people who have a history of sexual assault and childhood trauma. All of this will put you in a more powerful position from which to act and communicate more appropriately.I hoped this book would help me see that I’m not as terrible as I think I am, but instead it made me feel so much worse. The authors mention, in several places, the connection between insecure (anxious) attachment and BPD. Many symptoms of BPD can be challenging for those with the condition to effectively address, such as splitting. Beyond Fear to Hope "Psychological change requires resisting unproductive automatic reflexes and consciously and willfully choosing other alternatives - choices that are different, even opposite, from the automatic reflex - sometimes these new ways of behaving are frightening, but they hopefully are more efficient ways of coping. Dar, odată ce ești mai aproape de centru pe axa comportamentelor (și mai departe de extreme), poți învăța să te vindeci și singur, ca cineva care învață să meargă cu un șchiopătat (cum se spune în ultimul capitol, căruia i-aș da 5*).

The next, they seem to have forgotten all of the good things you did before, reacting only to your most recent negative encounter - no matter how trivial - and suddenly you are cast inexplicably as the villain.

So take it from someone who's been working an inpatient psychiatric unit for going on 12 years and wishes they had read this book when they started out, everything in it is spot on. This challenge with “middle ground” situations can make it difficult to have personal relationships and cause interpersonal conflict. Oh, well, every single female patient he describes in the book, he mentions their appearance and how attractive they are. Hoje em dia quem sofre do transtorno junto dos seus familiares e amigos precisam desse tipo de informação, que em maior parte do livro é dada de maneira explicativa, clara e não-preconceituosa/generalizada. If you know someone who has BPD, it may help to recognize that their responses are part of their condition.